The Not So Subtle Art Of Getting Advice

People are full of opinions and advice about everything.

They love nothing more than sharing it with you as it gives them a chance to talk about themselves and their opinions which are majorly based on their personal opinions.

When literally anyone can give advice, it should be noted that the overall quality is going to be poor. Unfortunately, we get some of them from our close ones too. They tend to give solutions without considering what you want. And If you continue to follow their advice, you will wind up living someone else’s life.

How often have we heard stories about that student who put his parents’ wishes ahead of his or that banker who hates his job but stays for the prestige?

People say they want the best for you, but their suggestions might alter your life the way they think your life must be altered. Many times they do it because they can gloat about it to others.

In the end you get stuck.final ven

To make things worse, you Google the same just to be absolutely sure of the choice you want to make. Now you’re bombarded with advice that you can’t use in a lifetime. Because of all this, there are many dangers in taking advice.

What do you do?

You wouldn’t take tech advice from a chef right? So to be certain, be selective in choosing the people you take it from.

This is what I personally follow when I need help from others. adviice

Bottom-line is, most people haven’t lived their advice.

So what do they advise? Their mistakes and what they think is right.

I learnt the hard way that people giving me advice did not have the life they wanted. So, I had to ignore the people I most respected.

I hate the fact that I have to give advice about how advice should not work in a vacuum. But, sometimes you have to get your hands dirty and figure things out for yourself.

Get sucker punched in the face to learn what works for YOU.


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12 Comments Add yours

  1. That’s a pragmatic approach for sure. 🙂

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    1. Anjana says:

      Sure is 🙂

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  2. Eccentric Muse says:

    Awesome post!

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    1. Anjana says:

      Thank you 🙂

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      1. Eccentric Muse says:

        You’re welcome. ^^

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  3. Great advice about advice. Makes more sense to practice what you preach before venturing into a session of advice.

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    1. Anjana says:

      Ha ha ha thank you 🙂

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  4. I agree with you. An excellent post.
    I wish people would just stop advising about issues they don’t know and understand. It would be a lot better but again, it’s teir job to just ramble on and interfere in others matter, even when not asked.

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    1. Anjana says:

      Yeah, true. People love advising !

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  5. Haha you are spot-on!
    “….it gives them a chance to talk about themselves and their opinions which are majorly based on their personal opinions”. Usually when people are ‘listening’ to your problems they are simply formulating in their head what they are going to say next – they are hearing white noise and thinking only of the next thing that’s going to come out of their mouth. It’s always based on their life experiences and they always project on you how they are feeling and what they actually want for themselves….Your advice about advice is very pertinent!

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    1. Anjana says:

      Ha ha ha totally. Thank you so much for reading the blog and voicing your detailed point of view. It means a lot 🙂

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